It was brought to my attention from another blog that perhaps anyone who blogs anonymously is "fake". I think that I have enough photos and regular followers here for that to be silly, but I feel like the finger was pointed.
If you are a regular follower of my blog (meaning we comment on each other's frequently, etc) and you don't know why I am anonymous, feel free to leave your email in a comment. I will give you the short story. :)
Enough people know me to be real and true, that I don't think it's an issue. I just got my fur raised when another blogger basically said "Anyone blogging anonymously is suspicious".
The only thing suspicious about me is my hair color. And no, this is NOT my real color. ;)
We used to revel in the "new perfect" that was our life. Raising a beautiful girl with multiple special needs showed us that "perfect" is all in our minds. Emily's life was perfect. It was happy, it was brilliant. She was social, outgoing, silly, and ticklish. Now we are learning to get through life without our "Perfect Peanut" in it. This is most certainly NOT a new kind of perfect.
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I really hope that you understand that this "follower" truly believes you are who you say you are. No doubt! Even if you don't openly "say" who you are. I understand the need to protect your identity and the identities and safety of your family. I had a long talk with the hubby before I started my blog about this very thing. To say that he is nervous that I am so open with my blog is putting it lightly. We all have our reasons for doing things and any reasonable person should be able to understand you keeping a level of anonymity on your blog to protect your family.
Having said that, I hope I understand who you are referring to who mentioned that anonymous blogs might be fake. Is "Husband" in the title? Please feel free to e-mail me at anjcortez@hotmail.com if I am wrong or if you want to discuss this issue further.
Please re-read the following from the blog I think you are referring to:
"Now, having identified a few red flags, it is incredibly important that you understand that I am NOT attempting to purposely bring suspicion to any blog that has not already been proven to be fake, nor do I believe that every blog that includes any or even all of these red flags is indeed fake. Furthermore, my list of red flags certainly is not an exhaustive list, and I have no doubt that there are many authentic blogs out there that might include some or all of the red flags I just mentioned. I know of several blogs that I believe are legit whose authors maintain a high level or privacy, use multiple authors, and offer the opportunity for people to donate and support financially...there are some very good reasons to do those things, but they tend to be the exception, not the rule. I'm certainly not an expert on this subject, and I did not sleep at a Holiday Inn last night..."
I hope I am right in guessing that this is the blog you are referring to.
Please understand that your blog shows NO signs of being fake. Anyone who is worth being a follower of your blog should know that. I look forward to continuing to peek in on your wonderful family from time to time.
God bless you and thank you for sharing your life with us.
No need to explain to me! I'm just happy to have gotten to know you and your wonderful family, names or not! HUGS!
This is all fallout from that who AR thing. ARG! Anyway, I am just getting my blog going and plan on keeping a certain amount of privacy. If people think we are fake because of that, I say go find another blog to read. Whoever wrote that must not have children they want to protect - especially from all the wackos out there! my 2 cents.
Glad to have gotten to know you through your blog. I am a new follower.
Hugs!
Steph and Christopher
I think you never know who is fake, so you just be nice to everyone and not give out to much info. Or quit blogging altogether. I think its just fine to not use real names. I don't think my kids ever get called by their real names anyway, its always nicknames.
I've never thought you were fake either;) I think using names or not is a choice you make, just like your layout. I've chosen to use names, but you will never see our last name, town, surrounding towns or anything else in print. We simply are a last-nameless bunch living quite happily in the middle of a wheat field.... in Colorado.
Besides, Peanut and Monkey are adorable nicknames!
Wow! If we have fake blogs (although I guess I do use our first names) does that mean that our lives are fake, and we can have a "do-over":). Not that I really want to....but, somedays I could handle not having the special needs in my life:)....how can I make that "fake"??
I'm just glad that you have a blog and I love reading it. Anyone that would make up their child having special/medical needs should really get a life:).
Wow. wow. wow. If the person who pointed the finger only knew. If she/he only knew what you have been through and what any of us stands to lose, what a worst-case scenario really is. Wow. I am dumbfounded that people don't stop to think, to put themselves in others' shoes just for a moment, before taking that step to judge, to openly, publicly point the internet finger. Sigh. Let's hope they never have to learn the hard way, eh?
I'm totally anonymous and don't use photos of people that are less than 20 years old. Nonetheless the life described is very real and the lives you describe I am sure are very real, too. Monkey and Peanut are such cute kids and real names or not, your blog is great!
P.S. Not sure how I wandered over here.
Stopping in to say, Hi. You are as real to me, with more shared experiences than my neighbors.
Hi What a small world... Jaxson's blanket link was on a post off the t13 site and I knew that cute face when I saw the pic and followed you to this blog... So this is what you do in your spare time!!! :)
emal me when you can, please
ThereseAnn, mom to Natalia
You know what? I choose not to publish my girls' names on my blog in the hope it offers them some slight measure of privacy. Doesn't stop people recognising them from the photos obviously but does mean searching their names won't link to the blog. And when I have foster children in, I can't ever use their names or photos or anything which might identify them.
I'm pretty sure they - and me - are still real though.
And if I'm real then I'm pretty sure you are too.
Tia
Well, that is silly. I post anonymously and I know that I'm real. :P It's for safety reasons.
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